By Anthony T. Eaton | Originally Published 2016
Personal leadership requires that you not allow others to treat you with any less respect and dignity than they expect for themselves. It does not matter if it is in the boardroom or the living room; no one has the right to tear someone else down to build themselves up, take advantage of kindness and generosity or expect that they are guaranteed space in our life based on their position or relationship to us.
You can accept and forgive while at the same time walking away from people and situations that do not support, add value to your life or allow you to grow. Forgiveness, after all, is for the forgiver. When we allow situations to control us, let someone treat us as lesser or with irrelevance, we diminish our ability to be the person we are meant to be and we stunt our spiritual and emotional growth.
Personal leadership requires courage to look deep within ourselves and recognize our worth and potential. Courage to let go of things that hold us back and hinder our growth; only then can we really begin to achieve all that is meant for us.
We must all take charge of our own lives and have the strength and courage to not relinquish control to others or allow ourselves to become a victim of situations that we find ourselves in. We cannot depend on others to validate our worth and fill those spaces within us or our lives that feel incomplete or empty. Everything we need is within us and it is just a matter of looking for it, finding it, and using it. We must have faith that there is a plan and design for us and not let our progress be hindered by obstacles and perceived roadblocks we encounter.
I hope that this is something that resonates with you for me these are all things I have to constantly remind myself of on my own journey.
EVERYTHING WE DO MATTERS
By Anthony T. Eaton
I wrote this article a few years back but it is one of those that are timeless and so I am sharing it again her on my new site.
“I know you are a very busy person and I will try to keep this short. I want to send a positive story your way about Anthony Eaton, Manager Service Delivery.
Without going into great detail, my husband recently passed away and my boss allowed me to work from home the last few weeks of his life. Rewind to November when Anthony Eaton asked if I would like for him to share his “Quote of the Day”. I said “YES”, because my husband was so ill and I loved getting anything that kept my thoughts off of negative situations and on to encouraging thoughts. Fast forward to end of January, when I was working from home and I was still receiving the “Quote of the Day”. Anthony’s emails helped me get through the tough days.
On February 6, 2018, almost two weeks before my husband passed, Anthony sent a quote from Jane Goodall – “What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make”. That was my wake-up call that yes I was saddened by my husband having a short time left and I wanted to make a peaceful difference in my husband’s life.
I spoke to my husband with a smile on my face, sharing with him how much I loved him. I let him know that soon he would be out of pain and would be with other family members that loved him very much, such as his grand-daddy who taught him to build, his uncle who taught him to hunt and fish, his momma who taught him to be tough and my grandmother, who loved him for loving me. I encouraged everyone who came into our home to speak with my husband about the good he brought into their lives. They all did. Even our mail person came in to thank my husband for always being kind, for sharing tips on how to take care of his guns (my husband was a gunsmith among his many hobbies) and the young man said with a smile on his face and tears in his eyes, “Mr. Chamberlain, you be sure to tell my daddy hello when you see him and tell him I love him”. That afternoon my husband passed.
Now back to Anthony. Those stories may not have happened if it wasn’t for Anthony sharing his “Quote of the Day”. I also want you to know that in November he shared with me an article he wrote:
I read it twice the day he sent it to me and then set a follow-up to read again in December. I then skipped a couple of months of reading it but read it today and set a follow-up to reading again the middle of April. I believe this article helped me with my employees while I was in and out of the office with my husband. It also helps me with my employees when life situations hit them hard.
There has been so much happening with our company over the last few years, that employees tend to side with the negative people with the negative thoughts and I am so thankful for Anthony Eaton coming to our company and working so diligently to send a positive message. I appreciate you taking the time to read this email.”
Life is full of lessons if only we are willing to pay attention. The lesson here is that we never know the impact we have on someone’s life. For me, this is an example of things coming full circle, because I needed a reminder that what I do matters.